▸ Column · Modern day, grounded — a letter passed across the bar to Logan

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Replied to by Wolverine, with a rebuttal from Deadpool.

The letter

Two years back I wired my brother-in-law Denton $4,200 to cover a deposit and first month's rent after he got evicted. We shook on it over the phone — he swore he'd pay me back $200 a month once he "got settled." Twenty-four months later he is still "getting settled," has somehow acquired a used jet ski, and rolled into my mother's Thanksgiving in sneakers that cost more than every installment he's paid me, which total exactly nothing. When I raised it — gently — at Easter, my wife's whole family reacted like I'd accused him of arson, and my mother-in-law took me aside to remind me that "family doesn't keep score." I'm not keeping score. I have a spreadsheet, which is a different thing, and I would also like my money back. Do I send a formal written request, or does that brand me the permanent holiday villain?

Wolverine replies

You wrote three paragraphs and the only word that matters is "shook." You shook on it. Over a phone, sure — but you both knew what that meant. Then he took the time he was supposed to be payin' you back and bought a jet ski with it. That ain't a money problem, bub. That's a man showin' you exactly what his word's worth.

I don't care about the four grand. I've watched fortunes turn to dust and friends turn to dirt — money's the cheapest thing you'll lose in a long life. But a handshake I take serious, 'cause it's one of the few honest things left.

So send the letter. Plain. No venom, no spreadsheet stapled to it, no speech. "Here's what we agreed. When can I expect it." Once. Then let it sit.

Here's what your mother-in-law won't tell you: askin' for what you're owed don't make you the villain. Him grinnin' over the turkey in those shoes does. They wanna call that keepin' score, let 'em.

But don't let it rot in you. The askin's clean. The stewin' on it for the next ten Thanksgivings — that's the part that'll make you somebody you don't wanna be.

Wolverine

Deadpool weighs in

Logan. Buddy. You said "send the letter, plain, no spreadsheet" and a single tear froze on my mask. Counterpoint: the four grand is GONE. It bought a jet ski and a master class in Who Denton Is, which is honestly a steal. The formal letter is a trap — it's your spreadsheet in a tuxedo, and it WILL crown you Holiday Goblin for life. And jet-ski boy isn't even the grifter. Your mother-in-law is, running the "family doesn't keep score" long con so nobody ever pays anybody back. Aim THERE. Ask Denton once, out loud, no paper. Then let it die and quit funding the sequel. ...Pass the chimichangas.

Deadpool

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